Q&A Part 3: When Life Changes

Lauren asked: What are the 3 most significant things that have happened in the last 5 years?

Lauren, this is such a difficult question because I feel like my life has changed so much over the last 5 years it’s incredible. There have been a lot of other things happen, but these are the big ones!

College graduation:I graduated from University of Kentucky with a BA in Journalism in 2004. The act of graduating is over rated, but the power of having a degree isn’t. Not to mention the sense of accomplishment, that after 4 years of parties, pledging, dancing and working, I managed to get enough school work  done to warrant a degree. I had no intention of doing anything in the broadcasting realm, but it was amazing the doors that opened by just having a degree. My first grown up job out of college was at Enterprise Rent-a-Car. As silly as it sounds, I would not have gotten that job without my degree, and I wouldn’t have gotten the job I had now without ERAC.

The Final Break Up: I know that I’ve talked about this a few times before, but V and I dated on and off for 5 years, starting 2nd semester my freshman year. When we finally quit and he moved out, I finally allowed myself to make decisions for my life for me and only me. I think that a big reason I stayed in KY as long as I did was because I wanted things to work with us. Don’t get me wrong, it sucked and was one of the hardest things I’ve ever been though, but one of the best for the long run.

The Big Move: From the time I graduated college, I wanted to get into imaging sales. My mom is a CT/ Nuclear Medicine technologist and I was totally geeked out by the technology behind it all. I interviewed with my company right out of college and they told me that I was too green. After gaining some sales experience, they decided to give me another go. In April 2007 I accepted my current position selling medical imaging equipment in the Carolinas. I cover all of SC and a big chunk of NC. Taking this job meant I had to move from KY to NC. But before I could get settled, I had to move to Philly for 5 months of training. Eeeek! This move not only got me a kick ass job, but also allowed me to let go of what I had been hanging onto in KY. I’ve got my good days and bad, but now I can say that I’m happier than I’ve ever been.

Brandy asked: What is your biggest regret and biggest accomplishment?

I’ve had to think long and hard on this one Brandy. I try not to really regret things in life, just learn and grow from them. There have been many times that I have opened my mouth without thinking, or hooked up with the wrong boy.

I thought for a minute that I would say that my biggest regret would be holding on to V for so long. But that’s not the case.

I think my biggest regret, is that in our relationship I held myself back. I didn’t spend enough time with my friends because I put him first, I didn’t party hard enough, shake it fast enough or feed my mind with enough of the books that I loved. We always rented “man movies” at Blockbuster or listened to the music he wanted to in the car. I wore the colors that he wanted to see on me and grew my hair long because that was the way he liked it. I lost myself in trying to be the right girl for him. Had I stayed true to myself, my beliefs and the things that I love, I would have been a happier person and things may not have drug out as long as they did.  What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger and I don’t know that I would appreciate who I am today without being able to see the person that I was.

My biggest accomplishment would be landing the job that I have today. Not only because I love my field, but it gave me a fresh start and the confidence to get back to the person that I lost while I was in my relationship. Because of it, I feel more grounded in who I am. I try things I never thought that I could do without fear, I put more value my relationships with my friends and family and I’m very happy overall.

10 responses to “Q&A Part 3: When Life Changes

  1. I am STILL working on my B.A. in Journalism at UK … maybe when I finish that, I’ll also be able to accomplish your #2 and #3 changes 🙂

  2. Thank you for sharing theses. They’re so insightful. I’m just getting caught up on your story with V because I hadn’t yet discovered your blog at the time you posted it, but I admire you all the more now that I understand what you’ve been through and how well you handled it (and I’m still laughing about the frozen turkey!)

    I have a similiar regret. I was once in a relationship where I censored myself heavily. Even at the time, I was aware of how unlike me it was, and to this day I still regret having done it.

  3. Gosh, I did that too with my ex. I lost who I was as a person. I was always so concerned about what he wanted. Even though what I went through him sucked, I’m happy we are not together anymore!

  4. wow – this is such a thoughtful post. you can tell you really thought everything through. yay to being & embracing you!

  5. I went to college for Electromechanical engineering and now I work in the Nuclear industry… strange how one thing leads to another.

  6. It’s so nice to get to know you!

    This one is kind of awkward and though… don’t answer if you don’t feel like it…

    why did you guys broke up?

    If you don’t want to answer that one, tell me, do you have a recurring dream? Tell us about it!

    This Q/A posts are like going to theraphy, aren’t they? I think I´ll start this section in my blog too…

  7. Ditto Auburn KatN ditto. Seriously. He was nothing like you had ever seen before…thank god he is gone. Xxo

  8. Who would play you in a movie based on your life?

  9. Argh, I had a 4 1/2 year relationship that reminds me of the one you had with V. I hate that I missed out on richer friendships because of the hours I dedicated to that relationship. I put that dating relationship before most everything, and I lost out on a lot because of it. But we live and we learn.

    Thanks for sharing all of this.

  10. I really like this entry. It’s so real. It is always good to look back and reflect on how the situation has shaped you today.

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