Monthly Archives: March 2009

MMM v. 4: The week of Break-ups…by Jules

So many updates, so little time!

What a busy week.  Between this weeks IJL date, Coach, an old fling, and my next date- I haven’t had time to breathe.

IJL Jason

Not a match this week, unfortunately.  I don’t think it is too much to ask for 3 things in a man:

  1. Chemistry- A good fit between personalities
  2. Attraction- Someone who is nice to look at
  3. Resume- Necessary life requirements (no kids, education, good job, etc.)

Jason had maybe1 of these. I am your stereotypical “life of the party type,” Jason was shy and reserved putting it mildly (he couldn’t even look me in the eye for at least 45 minutes).  I am very career driven and independent, Jason only works to pay his bills; which he has very few of since he still lives with his parents at 31 years old.  He wasn’t bad looking but I am not particularly attracted to skinny men.  I need my man to weigh more than me and I’m a curvy lady.  Finally, after I thought I would be able to cut it short and leave-

Jason- “wow, I’m drunk”

Julie- “well you are hiding it well, you don’t seem that drunk”

Jason- “no, I’m really drunk. I don’t think I can drive”

Julie- “why don’t you try walking to the bathroom, getting the blood flowing may help.”

Jason- “no, I just need to stay here for a while and sober up.”

Julie- “ok, I will ask for some more water.”

Jason- ” I don’t think it’s going to help.  Only time will help so I guess we will have to stay for a while.”

And after all this, he made me pay for all my own stuff! Needless to say, I won’t be seeing IJL Jason again.


About a year ago I went out with a guy from high school.  He was always the most popular guy in school, a great athlete, and the guy all the girls wanted but no one could get.  Ironically enough, since high school, he’s no longer an athlete, lost most of his friends, and is now fat and bald at 28.  Since our outing, he is totally into me. He calls, texts and begs to see me.  I feel horrible for writing this but… I only keep him around for an ego boost.  It will never go anywhere and I’m completely uninterested.  But I love the attention he gives me. 

Monday evening Coach text me and told me he was just lying around.  I got excited thinking he wanted to get together, but then, he never asked!  At that point I had a epiphany-

I’m Coach’s bald, fat guy! 

This week I had to break it off.  I have too much to offer and too much self-respect to be treated like this….. So long Coach!

Parlez-vous Francais?

This week’s IJLdate is going to be a great experience even if we don’t hit it off.  I will be meeting Luc at The Grand Concourse for after-work drinks. Here are his details:

  • Age- 27
  • Appearance- Blonde hair, blue eyes, 5’11”, fit
  • Profession- Research and Development
  • Education- PhD!!!!
  • Background- Moved to Pitt from France 2 years ago
  • Interests- Soccer, travel, and outdoor activities

This restaurant is supposed to be really nice and I am looking forward to Luc’s cultured perspective on life.  At the very least, he should offer a unique conversation and great stories!  Maybe we will see if he brings new meaning to the phrase “French Kiss!”

Stayed tuned!!


My Inbox: Cut and Paste

It’s seems like so many of my day to day life activities revolve around email: work, Zumba, dinner plans, catching up. Between Outlook, my personal email, blog email, Facebook and side job email account I’m checking inboxes left and right.

As the comments start to come it on my giveaway about how their inboxes are filled with cute, loving, dirty talking emails for people, I start to get a little jealous. Maybe even bitter, because I don’t have this at all. On occasion I may get caught in a series of flirtatious emails, but none worth saving.

A few weekends ago I got excited because I got an email via Facebook from one of the cute shirtless volleyball players that read:

Hey if you go out tonight give me a call. l have some buddies in town form NY so we’ll be uptown. Come out and show me some dance moves ;0)

This message was followed up by a sweet wall post and a text or two. Later that week grabbed drinks and I can’t say it was a dream date or that I got butterflies, but I was excited to be back in the game and feel like someone was pursuing me. My friends were excited that I was starting to let go of my feelings for my winter romance and sheared my date story with one of their co-workers.

“What was his name again?’, cute co-worker girl asked. “That sounds so familiar…”

“Hot Shirtless Volleyball Man*”, E replied.

“Ummm…he’s been sending me the SAME messages!” exclaimed cute co-worker girl.

Now I know that there are no laws that say that single men can not email more than one girl at a time…but there should be laws that state that these said girls can not be in the same cirlcecircle of friends! AND there should be rules that prohibit CUT and PASTE!

In his defense, he had no idea that we would know eachother. But it still feel like someone took a pin to my balloon…again.

*Name has been changed. 🙂

My Favorite Things: Bookworm Edition

A few weeks ago, I told you I was channeling my inner Oprah. Thanks to MEllen, Pretty in Pink got some super cute cards! Now it’s time to keep spreading the love, even though it’s raining

For my birthday, my generous friend Sarah(the one that works for Boarders in London) sent me this awesome book, Holly’s Inbox, based on the Internet phenomenon. I couldn’t put it down, and made all of my friends read it! My copy is now in shambles and has been read a gazillion times by all of my friends.



Holly’s Inbox Is scheduled to be released in the US on June 1, 2009. But who likes to wait? Not me! That’s why Sarah saved the day by sending me 2 copies to give away!

So here are the rules:

  1.  Leave a comment telling me the best thing I’d find if I got to peek in your inbox.
  2. If you post about this contest on your blog, you will get an additional entry. You must leave a second comment with the link to your blog saying that you did!
  3. You do not need to have a blog to enter, just a valid email address and a willingness to give me your info to ship you the book.
  4. All entries must be in by Sunday, April 5th at 10p. I will announce the winner Monday morning! Get excited!!

I had such a good time reading this book, I’m so jazzed to be able to share it with you! It will make you want to send emails all day long! And if your lucky, perhaps I’ll share with you the most exciting things in my Inbox too!

Best of Luck!!!



I am not one of these people


Via "I Can Read"

Via "I Can Read"

 But I’d like to be. Sadly, rain makes me grumpy. It makes me want to stay inside, curled up in my bed, with my dog and my phone turned off. But with rain predicted for the next 5 days, I\’m going to have to adjust my attitude or I\’m in for an awful time!

Do you know what would make me feel better? A giveaway! Check back tomorrow for the details.

MMM v.3:Not Such a Match…By Jules

All dressed up for my big date with nowhere to go

If dating were that easy, we’d all be married to Mr./Ms. Right, in perfect relationships, and there would be no need for Match Maker Monday.  Since it’s not that easy, you end up with dates like mine last Thursday. 

Date #2
Date #2 – by Julie McArthur on

I was so excited to meet Erik. I didn’t even get nervous until late afternoon this time. I got home from work, got ready (wearing above ensemble) and headed out to Six Penn Kitchen for my Big Date.  This time, my date beat me there and I went upstairs to meet him.  When I found our table, he was looking out the window.  As he turned around…..GASP!  Not cute at all!  What a bummer.  I figured I’d make the most of it, maybe he’d turn out to be a really great guy and his personality would win me over. 

What a DISASTER!  I have had better conversations with my drywall.  Even though Erik was nice the poor guy had no personality.  At first I thought it was his nerves but after we talked  I asked him 100 questions to avoid the awkward silence, it was abundantly clear….. no match for this Monday.  After 90 minutes, I figured I’d take the humane route, and bow out early.  We shook hands, said “it was nice to meet you,” and went our separate ways.

BTW- He mentioned in conversation that this was his 11th date!!! Hmmm….

Date #3

Before I even went out with Erik, IJL set me up on my next date.  We are going for after-work drinks this Wednesday at a location TBD.  Here are his stats:

  • Name- Jason (I have a thing for Jasons by the way)
  • Age- 30
  • Appearance- Brown hair, green eyes, 5’11”, fit
  • Occupation- Physical Therapist
  • Background- Played baseball and football in college, Bachelors degree in Engineering, Pittsburgh native
  • Interests- Sports and travel

I am quickly learning that not everything IJL tells me about my dates is true so this information will have to be verified.  However, my consultant did say that Jason is much more outgoing, fun, and similar to Coach than Erik was.  I am optimistic about this one so wish me luck again!

We didn’t even plan it!

Sarah B. and I were besties growing up! She never failed me as a friend. There were times that we grew apart, but we always found a way back to each other. We were together all the time, passing notes, trading clothes and chasing boys. We would always call each other every morning before school started and plan out outfits. We would want to match without matching…and then we would act in shock when people asked us if we planned our outfits together. We would look all coy and say, “I know! And we didn’t even plan it…” which was such a lie.  I  know I’ve written about her before, but today the funniest thing happened and I feel like it won’t do the story justice without giving you a bit of background.

She now lives in London and I see her NEVER. (Well, I did see her over Christmas. But only for a few hours!) It seriously sucks! But thankfully we both have Blackberries that allow us to message each other all day via BBM. If you don’t have this you are seriously missing out! We chat about work, pets, send voice notes and pictures.

Today I am working from home and she is super bored, so we’ve been sending pictures of our office, our pets, etc. Over the holidays we bought matching tee shirts while out and about. Today she bbms me a pic of her outfit. See below…

Sarah B.
Sarah B. in London

To which I respond with…


Me! Also Sara B. in NC, USA

It’s so funny to me that things like this never change. And this time when I say “We didn’t even plan it!” I am 100% not lying!

MMM v. 2: 20 Questions…by Jules

It has been a few weeks since I’ve done a Match Maker Monday and I have a few things to share. I’m really excited for this upcoming week so keep on reading.

The Interview

Before IJL will set you up on a second date, you are required to go into the local office for an interview.  I met with Nicola last Saturday and she was so nice!  We talked more about what I’m looking for in a match and what type of person I am.  She had me pegged! She could tell just by talking to me, what type of guy I’m looking for.  That makes me confident that they will be able to set me up with a great person.  Before I left, she took a picture of me (to make sure I looked that way I said I did.)  This interview meant…. IT’S TIME FOR DATE #2!!!

Update on Coach

Surprisingly, Coach is still lingering.  I haven’t seen him since I last wrote; however, we continute to text.  Between his coaching schedule and my out of town trips, we continue to have opposite schedules.  I can’t quite figure him out.  He texts me a few times a week, sometimes late at night, but he never asks for “late night activities” (as I would expect.)  Anyhow, i’m back in town again and his season is over.  We will see how it goes. Now, on to the fun stuff!

My Next Date 

I am so excited! This Thursday I’m meeting my second date at Six Penn Kitchen for after-work drinks. Here’s what I know so far:

  • Name: Erik
  • Profession: HR and Business Development
  • Education: Bachelors Degree
  • Age: 33
  • Appearance: Dark hair, dark eyes, attractive, physically fit
  • Interests: Tennis (weekly) and outdoor activities (basketball, football, baseball)

They don’t give me much information, just enough to wet my appetitie.  I am already planning my outfit, and have scheduled my hair and nail appointments to make sure I am all prettied up!  I can’t wait to update you next Monday on how things go. WISH ME LUCK!